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In this blog, Extreme Abilities CEO and  T8 complete paraplegic shares his view of the world from the perspective of living life in a wheelchair, paralyzed from his chest down. Follow Dries Millard and read his exclusive blog on how exactly someone who is paralyzed can be independent and active like he is.


Alternative Thinking

You’ve heard the saying “think outside the box” from a lot of different places and might think it’s a bit of a cliché. But when you live life from a perspective that forces you to do nothing but think and live outside the box, clichés becomes a way of life. These little cat poster sayings becomes literal life lines. Alternative thinking can sometimes mean the cusp between bliss and insanity. One of the things that really left me emotionally paralyzed with this whole ordeal of actually being paralyzed is the loss of bladder and bowel function. Yeah, a lot of people don’t know this, but when you damage your spinal cord, those two things become void no matter where you damage your spine. So having said that, there is a whole list of other things that goes with that, spasms are one of these phenomena own to paralysis. Now, with my spinal cord injury, I don’t get spasms like most of the other spinal cord injured ninjas. This means that I have a flaccid bladder. Jip, flaccid means there is no resistance from my sphincter muscle that holds in the pee. Usually when a spinal cord injured person has a full bladder, the spastic bladder holds in the urine to a point where blood pressure builds and a headache is the tell tail that lets you know, hey it’s time for you to pee, cos you aren’t aware of it, loss of feeling and all that (this is called hyperdysreflexia, google it). But with me, it’s a different story. My bladder is flaccid, which in short means my penis is a free flow pipe from my bladder, so if I as much as sneeze with a full bladder, I pee myself. The slightest shift in my body results in wet pants and a nasty smell. You can imagine this to be a major problem for any 18 year old. Back then (8 years ago) I knew nothing of what I’m telling you now. The solution to my problem? My dad just had enough of the struggle one day and went to the shop in search of something, anything to just help the helpless situation. He came home with something that I use till this day, normal sanitary pads for women. Yeah. My ego loved this concept off course, but I never had the problem of wet pants anymore. Outside the box. Nowadays you get pads for men specially for this problem.

ExtremeDries - 02:35 @ Wheelchair Life, Being Paralyzed, The gift that never stops giving | 6 comments

  1. Piet M


    Baie mooi gese, ek dink baie mense sal nou bietjie meer insig he tov die dag tot dag struggle wat gestremde mense mee moet cope. Jy moet asb meer blog.!

  2. Stefanie


    Ek hou daarvan. Skryf, lees dit graag.

  3. Gloudette Spamer


    Cool blog, Dries!! Ek lees graag!

  4. Amanda L


    Well written Dries, very informative as lots of people wonder about these things but do not want to ask.

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    The adaptive surfer,motivator,pioneer and differently abled trendsetter the more objectives with this informative site. More the things that really left me emotionally paralyzed with this whole function.

  6. Charmaine Embleton


    Thank you for sharing on this blog. It’s good to know, had no idea Dries. Thank you.

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